Marriage can be tough planning a wedding is even worse. What to wear , where to have the event and the most aggravating chore would have to be putting together the guest list. To make circumstances even more extreme your spouse may want to invite their ex! I would immediately begin to go ballistic and nothing but the grace of God would be able to calm me back down.
But if you're a bit more rational than I am and that doesn't bother you, I was told by a friend when I asked them the same question " it would make me feel more secure knowing that his ex is sitting watching us perform our vows ". I just don't want that extra stress when the pastor turns to the congregation and asks if anyone has any reason why we shouldn't wed. Although I would want to know, I don't think I would want to find out that way at that time. Like I said I'm just not emotionally built to deal with such high pressure situations. But maybe you are, and if so make sure you have plenty champagne ready for all the drama and stress that may come with inviting an ex as a guest to your ceremony.
Also I don't know if it's just me or if I'm just petty, but I don't wanna feed my new better half's old appendages. You can go tell her and sure she can see the spread on social media but unless it's in a doggy bag she won't smell a napkin. Because we are trying to move forward into the future my question to my future husband would be, why are you bringing the bones of your past to our present? I know a lot of you will say, well they can be friends .. Well, make new friends! Better yet, I'm your friend . YOUR ONLY FRIEND‼️